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The Dangers of Self-Hate and Pity Parties

The Dangers of Self-Hate and Pity Parties

When we have given up and quit trying, we move right into self-hate and begin to hate ourselves. Why? Because deep inside, we feel like a loser even though we choose to stop trying or fighting, and we hate ourselves for doing it. Self-hate is a big issue because it leads to many other wrong thought processes about ourselves, making it harder for you to be set free or break failurism off of your life. Failurism has deceived you into living as a failure, now you've stopped trusting God and have given up, and now you hate yourself. The devil loves this and wants you to see no value in who you are and who God created you to be; this can literally destroy the call of God on your life. We begin to judge ourselves according to our failures instead of who God has said we are.

Let's look at Psalm 139:13–18 (AMP): For You formed my innermost parts; You knit me [together] in my mother's womb. I will give thanks and praise to You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Wonderful are Your works, and my soul knows it very well.15 My frame was not hidden from You, When I was being formed in secret, And intricately and skillfully formed [as if embroidered with many colors] in the depths of the earth.16 Your eyes have seen my unformed substance; and in Your book were all written The days that were appointed for me, when as yet there was not one of them [even taking shape]. How precious also are Your thoughts to me, O God! How vast is the sum of them! If I could count them, they would outnumber the sand. When I awake, I am still with You.

God knew who we were before we were even formed in the womb. A very deadly manifestation of failurism can lead to attempted suicide or suicide. It's imperative to recognize that the spirit of failurism is attacking us. Jesus died before He knew us, and yet, He died while we were sinners.

But God clearly shows and proves His own love for us, by the fact that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us. —ROMANS 5: 8, AMP

Jesus can redeem us from anything we have done. He died for us even in the midst of our sinful lifestyles, so to believe that God judges us the same way we judge ourselves is total deception! We are fearfully and wonderfully made, which means all can be redeemed through Jesus Christ. We mustn't allow ourselves to sink low enough, especially to bring harm to ourselves. God loves us and has a beautiful plan. He doesn't promise the plan will be easy, but He never hates or wishes He did not create us. As I said earlier, there's always room for redemption. Jesus can redeem any mistakes we've made or areas in our life where we have failed. He can turn everything for our good. It's important to know how significant a role the stronghold of failurism holds in self-hate. Being set free from the spirit of failurism can eradicate self-hate.

You are Not to Blame for Every Problem in the World

We blame ourselves if something isn't perfect. We literally make anything, and everything about us, which is slightly selfish and creates a host of other problems, but we won't go into here. As we spiral down once we've gotten to where we see everything from the vantage point of us being the center and everything is being made about us. We're always blaming ourselves if something doesn't go right, and the entire time it never had anything to do with us.

It's so important to be set free from constantly blaming ourselves because that is a very self-absorbed way of thinking.

We must recognize the selfishness involved in blaming ourselves. It can seem very self-sacrificing, but really it’s a pity party, and the devil just laughs because he's hoping that you will genuinely go deeper into failurism and just give up altogether. The devil is hoping that you will see absolutely no value in the part of you that has not failed. Usually, failure in the physical sense brings a tremendous growth period. We can't grow unless we sometimes fail, but the devil wants us to focus on the failing, and then we expect ourselves to be perfect, or we don't try, or we give up. We have now decided that our value is found in doing everything perfectly and not in our relationship with Christ and who He's created us to be. Doing everything perfect feeds the spirit of failurism, or attempting to do everything perfect feeds the belief that it will never be accepted by God or anyone else unless it's done perfectly.

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